Self-harm

Support for anyone hurting themselves as a way of coping, or supporting someone who is.

What it is

Self-harm is usually a way of coping with overwhelming feelings, not an attempt at suicide, though the two can sometimes overlap. It's more common than people assume, especially among youth, and responding with shame tends to make it worse, not better.

Good to know

If you're supporting someone who self-harms, the most useful thing you can do is stay calm and curious about what they're coping with, rather than focusing only on stopping the behaviour itself — the underlying feeling is the actual target.

What helps

Therapy that addresses the underlying distress, rather than just the behaviour, is more effective long-term than willpower or punishment-based approaches. Crisis lines and counselling are both appropriate starting points, depending on urgency. And if an injury is deep, won't stop bleeding, or you're unsure how serious it is, treat it like any other injury and get medical care — there's no shame in that.

When to seek help

If self-harm is frequent, escalating, or feels out of control, call 811 or a counsellor. If there's any thought of suicide alongside it, treat it with the same urgency — call or text 988.

Before you call

What to expect when you call or text 988988 is Canada's Suicide Crisis Helpline. Here's what happens when you call or text — it's free, 24/7, and you don't have to be 'in crisis enough' to call.What to expect at your first counselling sessionNervous about a first session? It's mostly just talking, at your pace. Here's what usually happens — and what won't.What to expect at the ER for a mental-health crisisIf you can't keep yourself safe, the emergency room is for you too. Here's what happens when you arrive — and what won't.

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